I feel as if we are living in a world of entitlement. As if
we are owed something. As if we deserve something. As if our mere presence is
reason enough for gifts, promotions, donations, etcetera, to just fall to our
feet. Wrong. So, so, wrong.
We are here because someone has created us. We are here
because someone has unselfishly stepped aside so we can have the best possible
life. We are here because someone has given us words of encouragement. We are
here because someone has shown us what not to do. We are here because someone
has died for our sins (if you believe that sort of thing). We have accomplished
what we have because someone has helped us along the way. Bottom line: We are
here because of someone else.
I was heartbroken when my appreciation for appreciation was
questioned and was saddened that I even needed to argue my stance.
For the record, I do not expect gratitude for all I do.
However, when I donate my hard earned and (very, very) minimal money, I would
hope to receive a “Thank You” from the friend or colleague raising that money. Without
donations from your friends and peers, you would not have been able to reach
your goal. Without a gift, your wedding/shower/birthday/Christmas lists would
remain empty.
If someone does something nice for you, say “Thank You”.
Just today, I watched Monday night’s episode of How I Met your Mother. Marshall was horrified to learn he had not
sent a “Thank You” note to his friend, Ted. He said (and I’m paraphrasing here)
that Thank You notes are extremely important to his family and they actually have
a motto: (not paraphrased) “Lick it before your stick it”. As in, lick the
stamp before you stick it in the mail. I wish more families had this motto.
If you truly feel you are where you are in this exact moment,
with all you have accomplished because you have done so 100% on your own, then
disregard this post. However, if you feel as if someone has helped you get to
this moment, just show appreciation. Just say, “Thank You”. These two words are
not said enough. If you feel gratitude for something, just say so. Just say, “Thank
You”.
